When you're a kid, you learn a lot about love and dating through experience, from your friends, through the media, and in some rare cases, from your parents. I remember my first love. That's not to say that she was the first real girl I ever went on a date with, or even the first girl I ever kissed. She was simply the first girl I ever felt like I was in love with.
Call it what you will...puppy love...infatuation...lust...
It's easy to minimize love. Adults constantly tell kids they don't know what real love is, but they have trouble describing their version of reality. When you're a teenager, very little of what you're told truly sinks in the way it should. You know what you feel, and you don't want to be told that you're wrong. You feel like you would give the world to the girl you're with. You want that feeling to last forever. Truly that must be love.
As you get older, you realize that feeling can be felt toward multiple people. If you're lucky, you can even learn to control that feeling. You learn to look past it, and instead focus on a person for who they are. Sex detaches itself from love. Passion becomes a separate entity. Loyalty and honesty become commodities that you ration to only the most deserving. In short, walls are built.
With that being said, what is love...?
I've been searching for this answer for more than half my life now. My infatuation with love itself is now my longest relationship, sans blood relations. I've put in more hours over a longer period of time than I have into any job, habit, or skill in my life. Despite these facts on paper, the reality of love still eludes me.
I don't profess to understand what true everlasting love is, because I have yet to find the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. There's been plenty of contenders. I've been attracted to different women for different reasons. I've dated a few people. I've had one night stands. I've cheated and been cheated on. I've been on every side of every page in the book of love, but I have yet to find what it is I'm looking for.
Until I find it, I'm not giving up. I won't close my heart off and become jaded toward real love. I don't care who laughs or judges. Call me a fool if you will, but I will not stop until I find the answer I'm looking for. I'll know when it's right when I find it, and I will not compromise until then.
I don't understand love...but I'm not afraid of it...I embrace it...
About the Author - Brian Penny creates music under the name Mr. Versable. He tweets under the name @Versability. He believes in true love[Image], and won't rest until he's found his...oh, and his last blog cost Bank of America a whole lotta dough although I'm not pointing fingers, but the typos weren't mine...! Peace and love! haha ;)
Very well said. I knew you had a softer side ;)
ReplyDeleteI think love takes action not just words...consider taking a few of those walls down that have built up over time and see what happens :) I hope you find what you're looking for too.
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